Well, we are back at our apartment a little earlier than expected thanks to Sandy.
But whoever said sitting in front of the TV watching the weather
radar map is not the most romantic way to spend
your first anniversary was so…wrong.
We did have a fun short trip which I will talk about later, but for now,
I want to stick with this whole romantic theme, and share some surprising
marriage advice that has come in handy our first year.
And no, I am not in the business of dishing out marriage advice now
that our marriage is coming out of infancy. Did you think I was about to tell
you how to have a good marriage? I kind of hope you did. For just a second, at least.
But no, this is someone else’s advice.
For one of my bridal showers, the hostesses collected everyone’s best
marriage advice on little index cards for me to take home with me. I loved
reading what all my friends wrote, but there was one card that stuck out to me.
It said, “no attacks, no defense, no retreats”.
When I first read it, it didn’t strike me as anything profound. But, shortly after
we were married, Eric and I were in the car, and he said something to me that
automatically made me defensive. I opened my mouth to speak, and then that
index card came into my mind, and it suddenly made sense:
we are on the same team–I can’t think of a less-cheesy way to say it than
that–and it has stuck with me.
For the first time in my life, it really did hit me that I am not looking out
for my own interests first and foremost anymore.
Certainly not easy or natural, but worth aiming for.
I think of those words a lot (it applies to so many situations!)
and they help remind me that I should be actively seeking his
good–because in the end, it is for our good.
Isn’t it funny how sometimes the most obvious advice is what we need to hear?
I am thankful for the reminder the writer of that index card has given to me,
and I hope I get better sticking to it over the years.
What words have stuck with you about marriage? Care to share?
Some other words that surprised us: “your wedding ceremony/reception will go
by in the blink of an eye. Make an effort to remember all the details.”
We found that to be so true. Scarily true.
And speaking of time flying by, I can’t believe these pictures were taken one year ago.
Okay, before nostalgia takes over completely, I’m back to cozying up
on the couch while watching weathermen preach the end of the world.
If you are in the area, stay safe and dry!